Stuck in a rut?

Recently I was talking to someone close to me, who is going through some life changes. I noticed that every few years his life seems to get a complete reset. The girl he is in a relationship with bails for whatever reason, he experiences a job change, and his friends seem to fall away. All at once.

Like the legendary phoenix, he always rises from these circumstances and will get a new cast of people in his life, a new job, and usually start dating someone a little better.

So the latest time this happened, I proposed that he not just hang out with whoever is available, but take time to focus on himself. Plan out his life. Go through the pain of being lonely and depressed.

Instead of going with the flow, utilize this downtime with something that would really enrich his life.

He wanted to make an app at one point, and I told him about how Treehouse could help him get the skills. He mentioned that someone at his old job said copyrights to an app were hard to enforce. Then he realized that he just referenced someone in a retail chain who probably had no idea what he was talking about.

I told him about this kid who was making apps I read about on our website. Apparently, even a 7th grader can make enough to buy a car by building apps.

“If you deliberately set out to be less than you are capable, you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life.”

Abraham Harold Maslow

Sometimes we all get stuck in a rut. You might find yourself in a dead-end relationship, not knowing what is your next step in life. Or you might be working in the place where careers go to die.

I have been in all of these at some point in my life.

What you have to do, is figure out a way to improve things or learn a new skill at this low point that can serve you in the future.

It is also important to take this time and plan. Dream about what your life could be. What do you want out of life? What is the thing that, without it, your life would not be complete?

“Dreams come a size too big so that we can grow into them.”

Josie Bisset

Action Steps

  1. Imagine the future you want to live in.
  2. Identify if you are in a rut. Are you where you need to be to get to the future you desire?
  3. If things need to change, make sure you write down what you need to change and a plan to change it.
  4. Don’t listen to anyone that tells you you can’t do something or says the life you want to live is impossible. If you aren’t married to them, cut those people out of your life.

By Sam Watson

I'm pretty good at Microsoft Excel but a freak in Google Sheets.

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